What accomplishments in your life have brought you the most happiness?
Probably being told that I raised a good kid, &/or told I did a good job with him & have a good kid. Coming from someone who was told from 16 she’d never have kids without a lot of work & even that was iffy, so I never even thought about kids, that’s a huge compliment & makes all the doubts worth it.
Trying to figure out what to do next in my head & wanted to post a few things here to maybe help jog something in my head.
Picture intensive so going to put in a break so you don’t have to load them up without warning!
And no don’t be worried I just want to get this out of my system since there doesn’t seem to be anyone I can talk to about any of this anymore…I swear I’m not going to do anything crazy *laughs* anymore than usual that is.
I am….I don’t want to say depressed but…I am so upset & hurt & feeling useless & not needed & miserable & like I don’t matter & pain & rage…so much fucking rage & fear….I feel more of those than I do anything right now. I don’t want it to end & I don’t want it to be over & I don’t want to be numb I just want to feel something other than miserable & alone & afraid & useless & unneeded & the anger that all of those are causing. I’m trying so hard to change things but no matter what I do it just seems to make it worse so right now….I can’t feel anything but pain & sadness & hurt & fear & confusion & anger. I have never felt so unneeded & invisible & alone as I do right now & it sucks big ass. And yes my logical head knows it’s just feelings but that doesn’t make me FEEL them any less at all. Right now it’s like the freezing yet burning hole inside of me is just….sitting there…waiting to see what I’m going to decide to do about it & right now…I just don’t know….all I can do is talk about it & get it out there & hope that doing that helps at least a little cause lord knows I don’t want to eat my misery away like usual…which is why I’m doing this post…hoping it keeps me from eating my way to numbness like I have so many times before. Anyway….I think my rant is done & hopefully it will do some good. Sorry to dump this here after being so quiet but…I’m done trying to figure it out in my own head so gonna make use of this LOL.
Imagine this…me only posting to rant *laughs*. It’s been a very rough year so I’ve not posted much because even I get tired of reading the same old shit so since so little has changed, I’ve just been quiet. But now…I can’t keep quiet & hopefully this will help me just to write all of this down.
Years ago, when I got back onto SL I met this man that I ended up thinking was amazing. We were off & on a time or 2 but he was always 1 of my closest friends & meant a lot to me. That is until I found out he was lying to me the whole time, since I at 1 time did ask if he was married & he said no. So when I found out…I knew if I didn’t completely wipe him out of my life I’d go crawling back at a low point so I did just that. No explanations, nothing, just wiped his existence completely out of my life so I wouldn’t be an idiot.
I’ll admit, I was scarce on SL for a few months but then some friends convinced me to get back on there a little, if only to hang out with them. Tho wouldn’t you know, the shit was about to hit the fan in the most spectacular fashion in years…only rivaled my divorce & my ex from Germany. 1 of these friends, admitted that he felt more for me than just friends. Not love…he wasn’t that stupid since he was with someone at the time…but more than best buddies too. Well I decided to see where it went…without ever really going over the line of just friends because I did not want to be the other woman again & he knew it…had been told time & time again. Just see if there were feelings there & we’d see how things fell without getting in to deep. But of course, it wasn’t that easy because by late Nov of last year, some things were said on voice that shouldn’t have been said…even tho I had said before time & time again & had warned him that sometimes I had moron moments & to not let me do something stupid…well he let me do stupid things & then acted like he had no idea what he’d done wrong. I trusted him to keep me safe, & he didn’t even see that what had happened was so far past keeping me safe it wasn’t funny. So…again…I got to block 1 of the most important people in my life from my entire life. Again because of a betrayal of trust even if it wasn’t about cheating but just not keeping me away from the line he knew I’d stupidly cross & needed help staying away from.
Well after that fuck up, I stayed off of SL for about 7 or 8 months except for dealing with my breedables. But I started getting back on cause I thought I was ok enough & had my head on well enough to start dealing with people again. And I did so good for a while. But to make a long story short, I’m now in another mess because I’m an idiot. I don’t know how in the hell I got a big “I’m a slut please fuck me cause that’s all I’m good for” sign on my forehead but I sure seem to have 1. Because every single man I meet, no matter how it starts off, very quickly moves it to sex even when I say I’m not interested. All I want is to be valued & cared about & in a relationship with someone who likes me for me…not just what I can do with all my holes. Why the fuck is that so hard to understand & find?! It doesn’t matter where I meet them…it always happens. And more than I’d like to admit more happens & then I feel like such an idiot afterwards or like leftovers…both of which suck big ass. Why can’t someone want me because they care…not just because they wanna fuck me or think I’m a great fuck? *shakes her head* I just don’t understand it sometimes. So here I am now…balanced on that damned precipice & you know what…I’m damned tired of losing. I don’t want to lose any friends or would be friends, but I don’t wanna cheat myself either. I just want someone who feels for me like I feel for them.
Anyway…I think my rant here is done *laughs* so thanks for listening & maybe it’ll be a better reason I post next time! Hugs to all!
I just checked my WordPress Dashboard & realized that yesterday was my 6 yr anniversary of having joined WP. I haven’t been blogging the whole time & haven’t been on this 1 the whole time but it still made me chuckle & feels like an awesome thing.
Happy Anniversary with WordPress.com!
You registered on WordPress.com 6 years ago.
Thanks for flying with us. Keep up the good blogging.
I had started to post that earlier but got sidetracked, & just ran into this on Facebook & wanted to share it. It will make you cry but only cause there’s so many feels. It’s also why I am almost 44 & am not ashamed of being a fangirl…because some celebrities are awesome people & do everything they can to make the world a better place & are so much more than their money & fame. I know not all of them are that way but it brightens my day when they are & to reminded there are still so many good people in the world. Bless the both of them as well as all of you.
Ryan R: Actor Writes Tribute to 13-Year-Old Fan Who Died From Cancer
I hadn’t realized how long it had been since I was on here & I do want to say I am sorry. I’ve been working thru things in my head…concentrating super hard on sticking to the weight loss that everything else has kind of fallen to the wayside. But I am still here & hopefully will be doing more as it gets prettier out & I get in a better place to do more so hugs everyone & have a good rest of the week & a good weekend as well! And here’s some thoughts that’ve helped me a lot in the last few weeks so wanted to share them. *smiles*
Why do people have to shit on you & everything you believe in? I know a lot of it is my fault for letting it bother me but sometimes things just get thru the chinks in my armor & make me feel like the most ignorant person on the planet. When you’re reduced to sitting in the bathroom at work crying cause you’ve been smacked 3 times in 1 day & just cannot hold it together any longer because I’ve not felt like the scared no esteem teenager I was so long ago in quite awhile…well it just sucks shit. And feeling like no 1 gives a shit just makes it worse. Anyway…rant over & thanks for listening.
Just sitting here listening to music…ranging from One Direction to AC/DC to Beethoven & now Tainted love *laughs*…& was thinking. I really truly do believe in love, & that makes everything so much more confusing because even tho I really do believe in it, every time I think I might have found out I get gut punched. I know everyone has those issues, but it’s still crap. There should be a clearer, easier way to tell, if only to save so much pain & heartbreak. I try telling myself that since I’ve gone thru so many tries that when I do find it it’ll be awesome & amazing even if I have to work my ass off to keep it, but lately…it has been so hard to hold on to at least a tiny bit of hope since I’ve lost most of it. I’m so tired of the liars & cheaters & even worse the ones who love you for what you can give them & how they make you feel instead of what & who you really are, or the ones who don’t necessarily lie but hold back on things…big things…they know would make all the difference in the relationship…for the good or the bad. I’m tired of fake people & shallow people & selfish people & people who act like their selfless but can’t think beyond themselves…I’m just so tired of so much of it. As I told a friend the other day, I’m as low as I can get because for me, self harm (except my emotional eating) has never even been an issue or question because that is never been something I’ve wanted to do or felt like I had to do to make myself better, but right now…I’m not much above that I’ll admit. Most of the time it’s like being in a dark, damp, misty forest where the mist is so think it’s like a blanket & all I want to do is hide there forever. But I’ve been concentrating on my weight & eating so hoping that will pull me out some since my normal standby just isn’t going to happen…every time I try to write all I can do is stare at the blank page & hate whatever’s giving me such terrible writer’s block.
Anyway, just needed to vent & rant again so huggies to all & thanks for your support even if it’s just as a like or comment or visiting & reading & hope you have an awesome weekend!
I just had to get this out of my system & knew if I put it here, it’d do the most good.
My question is…what kind of fucking person has to pull over on the side of the road & cry because she has to eat home cooked food, instead of being able to get pizza & hot wings? I think I’ve hit rock bottom & I’m not sure how the hell to get past it because right now…all the trying & effort & monitoring what I eat & trying to exercise…it just makes me more & more depressed every single time I have to do it. I mean when a big portion of your brain would rather just not eat since it can’t have what it wants…even tho it knows how bad what it wants is…how the hell do you get past that or work with it? I’m tired of the frustration & disgust & irritation & some days just want to face dive into every bad thing I can think of & say fuck it all at least I’ll die happy…even tho I know I won’t because I’ll be physically miserable. But this way I’m mentally & emotionally worn down & miserable so I’m damned if I do & damned if I don’t. I’m either disgusted & hate everything, or physically miserable because I hurt & can’t breathe & can’t move.
Anyway…I think I’m done so thanks for listening anyone who bothers to read this & hugs to all of you for sticking with me thru everything.
I know…it’s scary isn’t it? *laughs* But I just read a post on someone else’s blog that made me think about a lot of the things I’ve had running thru my head, & decided that this wasn’t something I needed to put on the password only blog but deserved to be shared here since so many of you have been going thru this with me…some almost since the very beginning.
I have finally…I think…decided what’s best for me. Which has led to a few decisions on rules or guidelines or whatever you want to call it I need to follow for the next little while in my life. Firstly…I need to come first…or at least me & my family does. That means parts of me are going to be annoyed because they’re going to be cut off & other parts of me are going to have to learn how to deal with things whether they want to or not. There will be no more pushing emotionally charged or upsetting things off to the side or letting the slut side help hide those hurtful or scary or big feelings anymore. Sexual & physical intimacy & my extreme submissive almost slave side…are not there to keep myself from feeling the scary big feelings…they should help deal with those feelings. And that can’t happen with just anyone who talks a smooth line to get in my pants. I need to keep that side of me locked up until I’m with someone…someone who loves me & understands me & can be there for me & is more interested in my emotional & mental well being than getting into my pants or controlling me. Because that slut side as I call her…she’s scarey enough herself since it’s just as much my slave/primal/animalistic/instinctual part as my slut. She’s the 1 who does & reacts…& does not think. So I need to be with someone I can trust with my heart & soul & mind…all of me…& that can’t come without a relationship &/or commitment & a lot of time.
That side of me is the scariest part of me…much scarier than my little side. She is where my need comes from & I’ll admit…there is a lot of need in her. To be needed & protected & to trust in someone so completely that she can do anything she thinks or feels without fear of losing them or scaring them away or being too clingy. I thought for the longest time that the need to be someone’s…to be adored & worshipped & needed & protected & guided was the little part…but I’m starting to think it’s not. She is love & innocence & trust & precious…so many of the things I thought were here are much more naked & basic feelings & needs. I have though so long they were at opposite ends…my slut & my princess…but now I think they’re more 2 sides of the same part than I ever could’ve imagined. Instead of the slut protecting the princess…I’m starting to think it’s been the other way around. Which means I have to protect the slut from herself because when she manages to take control & do what she thinks she needs to do to be wanted…all of us suffer for it…with guilt & pain & misery & disgust at letting people who only want our body use us when all we want is to be someone’s one & only…to make their life a better, brighter place for us being with them…being theirs.
I hate talking about things like this. I have a huge headache now, my stomach is upset & sour, & I’m fighting not to cry because it hurts & is so damned scary to expose myself this way to anyone. But after reading that blog post…I realized I needed to do this…to make it easier on myself & so next time I’m tempted to let someone control me or use me in a way that’s not good for me…I can come back here & remember how it feels & hopefully keep myself from doing it just because I’m alone & desperate & in pain.
Thanks again everyone for listening & *laughs a bit* feel free to comment or even email if you feel the need since I have my email in my about now. Hugs to all & enjoy the rest of your weekend & your week ahead!