How well do you handle change in your life?

I don’t handle change at all well…I’ll be the first to admit it.  I like rules & a schedule & habit so any change totally throws me off.  I’ve learned to handle it much better over the years, but even now the sooner I find a way to make everything scheduled & a habit again the happier I will be.



This week’s update

Have lost 2 lbs…not sure how but not gonna argue about it either s0 yays!  Have been doing ok on the diet…not great but ok…but other than that not much else to report.  I have gotten to the point where if I go 9 point or more over my daily target I write Bad Girl on my hand in sharpie lol which will amusing at work, seems to do it’s job.

I’ve not even been on WoW except to clear out my mail so nothing done on there either.  Been on SecondLife alot…when I wasn’t at work…& things are going all right there.  Kind of in a nowhere zone relationship-wise right now but other than that it’s going pretty good.  Me & my kid have been sick but meh it’s that time of the year so we’ll be ok.  Thank you all of you for reading & I’ll be here next week again if not sooner!

More thoughts *laughs*

I bet everyone’s about tired of these but for once this isn’t bad…I don’t think.  Was perving profiles in SL a few minutes ago & was reading the profile of a Gorean slave & some things she wrote in there made me think & I just kind of wanted to write them down here so I could have them to go back & look at them when I need to.  She said “When i cannot serve i feel empty and lost” & that’s a good way of putting it.  When I’m not being encouraged or guided…I do feel lost.  I need that as much as anything else that I really need in my life.  Knowing I’ve made someone else proud of me & happy with who I’ve become…that’s what I feel like I’m here for…to do what they’ve known I could do all along…be what they’ve always known I could be.  Being told that…makes me feel more complete than anything else I’ve ever had someone say to me.  I know it can be difficult at times…but it does mean the world to those of us who need those rules & structure & encouragement because of those littles inside us.  So thanks for listening everyone & huggies!


Update for the week umm…lol

Well this was supposed to be the update for the week but I think it’s going to be more, so let me get the update part of things done before I get to rambling.  I gained .4 lbs this week but considering, it’s totally expected & not that big of a deal…it’ll come off soon enough.  And things are still going on SecondLife & WoW…no real changes there since last post.  So huggies to everyone & sorry about the upcoming grumbles.  lol


I have decided I need more positiveness in my life.  Right now there is still so much fear…fear of change, of failure, of succeeding, of never finding someone to love, of finding someone who loves me & losing them, of not losing weight, of losing weight which would lead to me being able to do more & take more chances which leads to so many more opportunities for rejection…so many more things that seem too petty to put after the ones I’ve already listed.  So to battle it…I need sunshine & light & caring & love & positive thoughts.  *chuckles* If only it were that easy to find them. *nods*


Here’s ya some thoughts *laughs*

Well..this isn’t going to be quite the post I was originally planning on it being, but all the same it’ll have some to do with it. I have entered in a contest in SL, & it has ended up dragging up all sorts of conflicting needs & feelings.  I originally did it just kind of spur of the moment because never in a million years would I have imagined it would go anywhere.  Now, I’m facing being in the finals & I’m not sure I want it or not.

But that’s not all.  I’m also surrounded by wedding planning & it’s making me a little crazy.  I’m the eternal bridesmaid…never a bride.  Everyone I’m good friends with in SL has been partnered at least once &/or married…if not multiple times.  I’m complaining but not complaining at the same time here.  I would love to have a wedding or even just be partnered but…I’ve got this man who…everything about me & him scares me…most of all losing him for good.  He won me over over 2 years ago by not only seducing me & bringing out the submissive in me for the first time…since before that I’d had no clue she even existed inside me…but for some reason he brought her out within minutes of meeting him.  Then the next time I met him, he showed that unlike so many men, he actually paid attention to all of me by scratching my ears & playing with my tail…since I’m usually neko in SL.  We ended up talking almost every day for the next few weeks & 3 weeks after we’d met, he decided to collar me officially.  And that lasted for almost 8 months before things fell apart.  I didn’t know it at the time but that’s when my little started to show & since neither of us had really had alot of experience with that particular thing, we didn’t really know what to do, so I left so we could stay friends since I was the 1 having most of the issues

We kept talking at least twice a month, sometimes as often as every day for a week at a time over the next almost year & a half.  We’d had numerous fall backs over that time but nothing was ever said about possibly trying again.  Then the other day, in the midst of the contest, 1 of my adopted SL sisters decided it was time to find me & my best friend a man…even if it was at gunpoint. *laughs* I happened to be talking to him at the time, & told him cause well…I found it hilarious.  He said that if she’s taking applications for the husband in my shotgun wedding he’d just have to put 1 in.  I smart assedly told him I double dog dared him & he did.  Which led to him coming down to the club we’re always at & dancing with me for over an hour which has only happened like 1 other time before in the entire time we’ve known each other.  Even more surprising, he asked me if I’d like to be his again…I figured I left him so it’d never happen even if I had entertained the thought a time or 2 & just never said anything to him about it.  I wasn’t sure how he felt about who I’ve become, whether he still cared about me like he had, whether he wanted someone as labor intensive as I’d be…so I’d never done more than idly consider it.  So after we talked a bit more about it, I submitted to him again.  He has been there for me over & over…more times than I can count…I’d have to be crazy to tell him no considering I know he’ll follow thru on every single thing he promised me he’d do.

And that is what’s led to things now.  The fear is coming back in full force due to both of these things happening, & my having issues losing weight which stems from the fear as well.  Fear that I’ll be a disappointment or too needy or I care too much & am going to ruin things for good with us.  Worry that I will get in the finals of the contest & that my other adopted sister won’t win it when she’d be a much better choice but also wanting to win if only to say hahahahah to everyone who thinks I’m everything I shouldn’t be because so many people think I’m not good enough when I damn well am.  Stuck between being happy to be collared again to being a bit…something…more wistful than upset I think…that I’ll never be partnered or married because I have to choose between those happening & being with a man I know has to care about me or he wouldn’t have asked me to be his again.  The fear that comes from not knowing how people feel because I’m scared to death to ask them because I don’t want to be told it’s more me than them & having to deal with that kind of hurt.

My adopted sisters….things are so romantic with them &…don’t get me wrong I’m not at all a big romantic or big on romance cause normally I hate the gushy stuff…but I am a woman with a heart & a human being & even I would like once in a while to be told someone loves me.  To get a present just because or a short note saying how someone feels…to have a ring or a bracelet or even a hair bow *laughs* that’s another way to show I mean something to them.  My best friend is amazing for that & I hope to never lose her again because of either of us being stupid, but even she’s not enough & she shouldn’t be.  It’s not her responsibility to pick me up when I’m down.  And yes…i have learned how to do that & I do love myself for the first time in like ever but no 1 wants to have to do it all on their own.  But it makes me feel so needy & guilty to want these things even tho I know I deserve them just like everyone else does that…it becomes a battle to say something about it for fear of disappointing someone or seeming too needy or ungrateful.  It’s so hard to think of myself first because I’ve spent so much of my life feeling like I need to please others that even now it does cause those types of inner battles.  The difference is that now…I know what it is & how to fight it which is what led to this post.  So thank you everyone for listening & huggies to all!



Love to hear how the other side feels.

Freedom Hunter

Our friend Symon wrote a terrific post this week about being a Dom. I wanted to add some specific thoughts on being a Daddy.

There is tremendous responsibility that comes with having a baby girl belong to me. I’m given the gift of submission but it’s coming from a little soul. This requires extra care. She is fragile and I must be acutely aware my tone, my touch, how I instruct, adding “my doll baby” to the end of a sentence. I worry about her …. a lot. I tell her I love her …. a lot.


I must facilitate regular discussions about the dynamic of our relationship.  It is my job to know her better than she knows herself and honor boundaries she may not even be aware of. This makes her feel safe so she can trust me when I am pushing her beyond her comfort zone…

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This week’s update

Won’t go into much here as this is just gonna be a quickie.  Gained a little bit of weight but nothing to be surprised about considering it’s the holidays.  Will be glad when the moodiness leaves with the holidays too *laughs*.  Secondlife & WoW have been going good & that’s honestly about all there is to say. *laughs*  Huggies to everyone & talk more soon!